No one wins the game. With high divorce rates, rampant cheating, lying and deception it’s easy to see why. Even within so-called happy marriages there is bound to be discontent. Why is that? It’s because it’s something of human nature to be discontented. People say, “Either game or be gamed.” Well, I propose an alternative – witnessing.
I think a game is a game until you’ve become emotionally invested. I can’t speak for all games but, for instance, becoming emotional in poker is the first step toward going on tilt. The same thing goes for jiu jitsu – you get emotional, you tense up and become more easily defeated. There are arguments in favor of “beast mode” but for the most part good game is played cool-headed. I’ve found the sociosexual game to be quite pulling on the heart strings. It’s a very difficult game to play and remain calm. Unfortunately for men, we never get over a breakup 100%. I could say the same for even minor trauma. It’s a very risky endeavour and I advise against it.
The man is generally always a loser when it comes to sex. He has to initiate, risks rejection and ultimately is rewarded only with an energy-draining experience which is quite short. I won’t even elaborate on disease or any other sex-related disorders such as marriage or kids. I can’t speak on behalf of women but I’m sure many guys are either triggered by this or nodding their heads. Probably depends on how many women they’ve slept with.
Anyway, I want to suggest witnessing as an alternative. Instead of “gaming” and getting wrapped up in whether you’re winning or losing, just observe your reactions to being up and down – because you certainly will be both.
It’s better to master yourself than sleep with every woman on the planet.